Perhaps, it is truly maternal instinct for mums to protect and keep their children safe. Even though Ms Koh has been physically hurt and abused by her ex-husband ever since she married him 5 years ago, the 23-year-old has never thought of leaving him out of fear and hope that he will change for the better. The final straw was when Ms Koh’s husband started hitting her 5-year-old son and 2-year-old daughter, that Ms Koh decided it was finally time to leave her husband for good, as she no longer wants to put her children’s lives in danger. The single mum is now living with her two aged parents and is having difficulties supporting her 2 young children.
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It was not an easy decision for Ms Koh to get out of the abusive relationship. After all she was trapped in the marriage and confined to the four walls of the house ever since she got married at 18. She confided in us and told us how she was afraid to leave him because she feels helpless and is unaware of any help that exists in the community. Even during her pregnancy days, her ex-husband would hit and push her. On one occasion, it was so severe that she had to be hospitalized to get 7 stitches on her forehead. The 23-year-old tolerated his actions for the sake of her children. She thought he will be a loving dad to his kids and that his abusive nature was only directed towards her. Little did she know that once her children were born, her ex-husband also began hitting them too. Her 5-year-old is so afraid of his dad today because of his violent tendencies.
That was when the young mum told us how scared she was for her kids’ safety that she decided to file a protection order against him. They are currently separated and Ms Koh has shifted to her parents’ place. Things haven’t been easy for the single mum as her elderly mum and dad are also diagnosed with a range of chronic diseases such as heart problem, arthritis etc. She just started working recently and her mum is working 6 days a week to support the family. Her ex-husband is also not providing any form of financial support to raise the 2 young children. Ms Koh is currently waiting for the divorce to be finalized so that she can receive some sort of subsidies for her children’s school fees.
It is not easy raising two young kids at her age, but the amount of love she shows for them touched our hearts and we believe she can do it with your kind donations!
ROHI would like to help give hope to the young mum by raising $1200 ($300 for 4 months) while she awaits results for her divorce and application for public assistance. Please give hope to this resilient single mum!
*Ms Koh is currently not receiving any public assistance.
17 Dec 2018
We caught up with Ms Koh recently!
After a discussion with Ms Koh, Ray of Hope has decided to disburse a one-time sum of $1200.00 to help pay off the school fees of her two children. Ms Koh has been struggling to pay off her children’s school fees with the amount she earns. She is stuck in a limbo as she is still undergoing divorce with the ex-husband and thus, does not qualify for any state assistance as her household income still includes what her ex-husband earns. Unfortunately, he has not been supporting Ms Koh and her children in any way and has even requested to fight for custody of her children.
Especially with all that she is going through, Ms Koh is immensely thankful for your kind donations and for making her battle a little easier.